Although 13 is my favorite number, the year 2013 has been rough, so I will gladly say goodbye to it.
This year I gave up my photography business. It was like giving up a child, but it had to be done. (I had moved to Hawaii in 2012, and I’d given up my Florida clients to other photographer friends.) When I returned to Florida in 2013, I opted for a regular paycheck and steady income. It was a new beginning, but it’s always tough saying goodbye to things you’ve worked so hard to have.
For many people which I love and care deeply, their own lives changed. Many of us dealt with unexpected deaths this year. Earlier this year I learned of my friend’s suicide. It was shocking, devastating, and saddening to know that such a beautiful person was hurting so badly that she only saw one way out. Just after Thanksgiving, I learned of another very shocking suicide of a very well-liked influential person in a community I used to live. But it wasn’t just physical death that people had to deal with this year.
Nearing the end of 2013, when things began to dramatically change for me personally, I was forced to reassess many aspects of my own life. One was the type of people that I had allowed to enter or re-enter my life. Being that spirituality is extremely important to me, it didn’t take long to notice that some of these people were not friends at all. Friends that respect boundaries and care about needs without considering their own interests is essential to maintaining true friendships. So with that, it was time to cut the cords with those that can’t serve spiritually. And then, by mutual agreement, my marriage ended just in time for the holidays. Although it’s heartbreaking and we still both love each other dearly, we knew we’d grown apart and that it would be healthier for us both to move on. This is probably the hardest part of 2013 for me.
But 2013 also had some new beginnings. I worked at a law office as a legal secretary until I was hired as a technology teacher at a private school. I have met some very wonderful people and work with the most amazing, talented kids. And I get to teach what I gave up earlier in the year – photography! In November, I began another successful part-time job selling some really awesome jewelry.
What I learned from 2013 is we choose our lifestyles and our happiness by eliminating the old and starting new, like a fresh rain washing away the dirt (thanks for the analogy, Eric 🙂 ). So what does 2014 have in store? I’m hoping some really cool changes that will put more smiles on my face and make me feel like myself again. But it’s all up to me and how I want to live my life.
I’ve slowly been adding things to my bucket list over the last year. I keep seeing new and cool things that I really want to do. Some of what I want to do is time-consuming and/or costly, but either way, I am determined to do these before I kick the bucket.
First, I have to admit that I am really scared of heights, so I won’t be jumping out of airplanes or doing any extreme mountain climbing. In fact, I cannot even do rollercoasters! But there are a few things on the list that I can handle (I think!).
1. Learn to scuba dive.
2. Learn to surf.
3. See The Rolling Stones in concert.
See Elton John in concert.
5. Hydro Jet surf.
8. Fly an Ultralight.
See Paul McCartney in concert.
10. Visit France, Italy, Japan, Peru, and India.
Track and visit where all of my ancestors have lived.
Participate in a 5K.
13. Invent something that everyone will love.
14. Make a successful movie.
15. See Billy Joel in concert.
16. Write something successful that will be for years to come.
17. Dine with at least one of the following: Maya Angelou, Terry Gross, Oprah Winfrey, or Michelle Obama.
18. Visit and volunteer in a remote village.
Volunteer at an animal shelter.
20. Volunteer at a homeless shelter.
It took me a while to realize that our words really do manifest into physical things. When I’d first heard about it, I was a little skeptical, but when I tried positive affirmations and they worked, I knew that there was truth in words.
Certain things we may find ourselves saying will manifest into physical pain or disease. For example, think about what these might mean next time you find yourself saying it:
“That kid is a pain in my neck.”
“My boss is a pain in the ass.”
“I am tired of this.”
“You keep hurting me.”
“My head is about to explode.”
“He’s breaking my heart.”
“Work is kicking my ass this week.”
Think about the physical pain you have and the possibility that what you are saying is bringing it on. We manifest our own destinies and are responsible for ourselves.